Our boards are wonderful communities of smart, funny, loving moms who all homeschool their children (or have in the past). These boards are dedicated to their hard work and offer a refuge, a place of support and encouragement away from their BUSY daily lives. Posts should be in keeping with those intentions for the board.
Because we are a Christian site, the foundation for our posting guidelines is the Word of God, the Bible. Although belief in the Bible is not a prerequisite to posting here, the following principles and practical guidelines for posting apply to ALL of our guests!. We welcome all polite contributors to our boards. Thank you.
Proverbs for Posting
The Book of Proverbs is a wonderful and practical source of wisdom for today! Please take into consideration the following verses--perhaps even praying about them--before posting your comments or questions to the boards.
There are six things which the Lord hates,
Yes, seven which are an abomination to Him;
Haughty eyes, a lying tongue,
And hands that shed innocent blood,
A heart that devises wicked plans
Feet that run rapidly to evil,
A false witness who utters lies,
And one who spreads strife among brothers.
Ouch! The reason that I'm including this verse (and the reason for using MOST of these verses) is to allow each of us to examine our own motives according to Scripture. None of us can see "haughty eyes" online and we may not know a "false witness" when we see one. But these verses are a sobering reminder that the Lord sees.
Another important aspect of this Proverb is the last two phrases. A false witness on our boards would be one who uses more than one name OR who posts anonymously in order to "spread strife". Please choose one name and stick with it! And reserve anonymous posts for topics that are sensitive and yet still appropriate to be mentioned on a public forum.
When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable,
But he who restrains his lips is wise.
Please carefully consider if your words will be an encouragement and a help to the individual or the situation. We all know that sometimes it's best to leave things unsaid and to remain silent. A practical note here: If someone has stated nearly the same thoughts/opinions that you have, it can be helpful to simply state "I agree" or not add anything instead of repeating the same view and creating a longer thread.
Proverbs 14:29 and Proverbs 15:1
He who is slow to anger has great understanding,
But he who is quick-tempered exalts folly.
A gentle answer turns away wrath,
But a harsh word stirs up anger.
I purposely used both of these verses together because in doing so, it shows that both parties in a conversation or debate are responsible for hard feelings that result! We must answer gently so as not to provoke a sister in the Lord and be willing to give grace and not be easily offended. Try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
The lips of the wise spread knowledge,
But the hearts of fools are not so.
Please be sure that you check your sources before posting questionable information, especially that which comes from email. Check www.snopes.com or another urban legend site to be sure it is valid before posting. We do not want our board to be a tool for spreading rumors.
Also, try as much as possible to state the difference between fact and your opinion. Again, this helps to avoid any confusion!
A man has joy in an apt answer,
And how delightful is a timely word!
Amen! Timing is so important when it comes to our speech! Consider and pray over whether or not it is the right time to speak your opinion or simply offer encouragement...or stay silent. We should always have the other person in mind when we "speak" on the board!
The ways of a man are clean in his own sight,
But the Lord weighs the motives.
Enough said on that one. :o)
He who covers a transgression seeks love,
But he who repeats a matter separates intimate friends.
Wow! I love this Proverb...our motives should always be love! In doing so, we can give grace and cover a transgression (or a "multitude of sins"). More specifically though, the last phrase applies to message boards in the following way: We should not take conversation from the board and continue it elsewhere (such as on another board or in chat), especially when not all original parties are present, so that we can avoid gossip! In a related matter, please do NOT copy and paste posts from other boards onto our board or copy messages from TeachingMOM.com and paste them anywhere else on the internet (namely other boards) WITHOUT THE ORIGINAL POSTER'S PERMISSION!!
The beginning of strife is like letting out water,
So abandon the quarrel before it breaks out.
In other words, know when to back out of a heated conversation gracefully! We are all responsible for the atmosphere on the message boards and keeping the peace sometimes means not getting the last word.
A fool does not delight in understanding,
But only in revealing his own mind.
Another version of this verse says the fool only delights in "airing his own opinions". This is another OUCH! Scripture, but it is such an important one! One of the main reasons that people visit message boards and public forums is to share their opinions. An important purpose of the boards at TeachingMOM.com is to offer counsel amongst friends (see the next verses). Counsel is for the benefit of the person we are giving it to, not ourselves! Be willing to allow someone to reject your opinion or advice and know when to stop trying to convince them. Sometimes people are not ready or open to advice and that is the time to just lift them up in prayer.
Proverbs 19:20 and 27:9
Listen to counsel and accept discipline,
That you may be wise the rest of your days.
Oil and perfume make the heart glad,
So a man's counsel is sweet to his friend.
There will be times when it is appropriate for someone to gently correct another or to counsel them to do what is right but not necessarily comfortable or fun. We have the option of taking or leaving any advice on the board, but please be open to the wisdom of others. Conversely, if you are giving counsel, be sure that it is appropriate (necessary), respectful, and "sweet"!